Eye2eye Personal Development MAKES People like You Part 2
February 11th, 2011
There are at least four simple ways that you can virtually force people to like you (or at least be more agreeable towards you) with very little effort from you and we`ll look at them now.
A – Apologise before asking someone to do something for you that`s a little out of the ordinary. Starting a request for either a service or for information with the sentence `I realise that you`re very busy and I don`t like to bother you but could you tell me ……. OR am I too late to arrange……….`
By putting yourself in the other person`s shoes and realising that you might be asking for something out of the ordinary and APOLOGISING beforehand will usually take the wind out of the sails of a potentially challenging request. You would have to be very mean spirited to not respond to a request phrased in such an understanding and polite manner.
B – Always, but always make direct eye contact with the person you are speaking to and maintain it. Don`t just look them in the eye during the first few words and then go all shifty on them. MAKE the other person feel that you are talking TO them rather than simply at them. It boils down again to the natural human need to feel that we are recognised as individuals.
C – Whenever you thank someone for doing something for you say it as though you mean it. Don`t trot it out as if it`s a habit like saying `have a nice day`. As well as sounding as if you mean it also say WHY you are thanking them such as `thanks for helping me with my luggage, I have a bad back and that`s made life so much easier.` Explaining why you are thanking someone makes them realise that they HAVE actually helped you and that what they did actually WAS important to you.
D – As well as making eye contact when you are speaking to someone SMILE at them as well. Not just a quick flash of your pearly whites, like a shark but a slow, wide and genuine smile. If a smile is faked it makes you look just like a conman, a shark, someone to be wary of. If you smile as if you mean it then it comes across as genuine and encourages people to be genuine in return.
Another tip about smiling is to smile even when you`re talking on the phone.
Smiling as you speak genuinely alters the tone of your voice and makes it sound warmer. Try talking through gritted teeth and you`ll see what I mean. Use these simple techniques and I`m sure that you`ll notice a difference in how other people respond to you.
If you still worry about what other people think about you and are looking to find a way to improve your self confidence you could do with having a look at this course by a guy called Jay Chase. He can explain things far better than I can so just click on this link and have a read;
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