Eye2eye Personal Development Helps You MAKE people Like You
February 9th, 2011
I`ve just returned from holiday refreshed. Well I’m refreshed in mind at least, if not in body. My legs are still aching somewhat from the amount of hill walking that I did but the old grey matter is working fine.
Whilst I was away I experienced something that inspired today`s post.
We were having dinner in the hotel restaurant when a party of four guests arrived at a table nearby. When the waitress came to take their orders the guests were quite unpleasant with the her, treating her as if she was inferior in some way, as if she was a medieval servant.
Now these guests weren’t too young to know any different nor did they appear to be uneducated in the common civilities of life.
They just seemed to genuinely think that it was beneath them to be at least polite to the waitress. Now I fully understand that the guests didn`t visit the hotel restaurant simply to make friends with the staff but their attitude was completely unwarranted and I couldn`t help wondering how they would have reacted if the situation had been reversed.
The waitress handled their bad manners very well and went on to provide the same level of service even though it was obvious that she objected to their behaviour which I think reflected well on her. The episode illustrated to me a simple fact of life which is that most of us like to be liked, whatever our situation in life, and it was that thought which inspired this post.
As I say, without being sycophantic, we all like to be liked.
Although the waitress handled the guest`s bad behaviour very well how much more pleasant could the diner`s experience have been if there had been at least a degree of mutual respect and understanding between the waitress and the guests?
We all have a job to do and we all have to interact with others.
Recognising that someone is, hopefully, doing their best to help us and showing that we understand and appreciate their efforts should not be too much trouble and would make life much more pleasant.
A question arises from this though and that is `can we do anything to MAKE people like us a little more?` Can we influence THEIR behaviour towards us? The answer is yes we can. There are things that we can do which will almost subconsciously force people to behave better towards us, or at least to consider us in a different light and that`s what we are going to look at.
The best way to make people like you is via their own ego. Make someone feel as though they are special to you and they will usually reciprocate. I`m not saying that you have to be false and pretend that you`ve fallen in love with them, I`m not that crass.
What I am saying could simply be boiled down to treating others as you would like to be treated yourself. There are at least four ways that you can do this with little effort and we`ll look at them in my next post.
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